Tipping on a budget.

For one summer in high school, I worked at a Dunkin’ Donuts / Baskin Robbins (affectionately referred to as “Dunkin’ Robbins” by anyone who has ever worked at such a place). It may not be as long as some folks have worked in food, but I still learned something that summer: tips are amazing, and those who don’t give them are assholes. I also learned that if your Dunkin’ Donuts doesn’t have a bakery in it, you’re probably getting day-old (at least!) donuts and bagels. Oh! And, never ever have them spread the cream cheese on your bagel for you – do it yourself. Trust me.

Uh… anyway… back to tipping!

A friend and I stopped at Dunkin’ Donuts on my way home from our knitting meetup last night because I was really hungry and cold. One latte order later, and I was rang up: $3 and change. I’d ordered the latte becauase it was on sale for 99 cents if you order one after 2pm. I corrected her, she apologized, and I got it for 99 cents… plus 7 cents tax. Being on a budget, I wanted all of my coins – all 94 cents of it – in my own pocket. I need it! I only have so much! But, realizing it’s after 10pm on a federal holiday and this woman is working alone in a Dunkin Donuts made me stop and think.

Summer of 2003, there was a huge freaking black-out in the northeastern United States, including my hometown. I was working at “Dunkin’ Robbins” that day and the witch-like wife of my boss was supervising us. The power went out, yet she still forced us to work. There was a carnival across the street at the time, and once the power ran out and the generators ran out of gas, everyone from the carnival bombarded us with demands of iced coffee and ice cream. (Mind you, this was way before Dunkin’ Donuts got fancy. It was simple: coffee, bagels, donuts, breakfast sandwiches. On my last day of work, actually, they were installing our first latte machine. I sure got out just in time!)

A line of pissed off, heat exhausted families with equally pissed off, heat-exhausted kids took over our dark store. Our witch of a supervisor was yelling at us, “DON’T YOU DARE OPEN A REFRIGERATOR OR FREEZER OR THE ICE CREAM WILL MELT! TURN EVERYONE AROUND WHO NEEDS ICE CREAM! JUST SERVE COFFEE!” The biggest problem, however, wasn’t that the ice for the iced coffee was melting, or that the coffee itself was disappearing with every purchase – it was that our registers ran on electricity and couldn’t be opened with the power being out. We had to use our tips to make change for people. After we ran out of coffee, we sent everyone away and put a “Sorry, we’re closed” sign on our door. Instead of sending us home (since my shift was over in an hour and a half anyway) she made us clean on our hands and knees in the dark – the floor, the counters, the sinks, the bathroom, the back room – everything.

And, at the end of all of this, I didn’t get a single tip.

So, last night I gave the girl a 17% tip – 19 cents. In hindsight, I should’ve given more. But, at least I did it. I could’ve been pissy about her not giving me my discount until I had to ask her. I could’ve been upset that it took her 3 minutes to make a tiny espresso beverage. I could’ve been like all the unnecessarily angry people who get their triple-grande-soy-caramel-macchiato and barely give a smile, surely not a tip.

Regardless of your budget, tip your server after your meal, your barista when you get your espresso, your bartender when you get your whiskey, and your cashier when they spread your cream cheese on your bagel for you. If not, be prepared for your next bagel to have expired cream cheese spread all over it… not that I’ve ever done such a thing…

Weekly Allowance: $60.00
Weekly Allowance Remaining: $50.34

J

My first “moneyjar” shopping trip.

I finally did it: I spent cash from my weekly allowance.

After I scheduled Friday morning’s post on Thursday evening, I went to the supermarket and bought items with which to make quiche for my dinner guests Friday night. Honestly, as ridiculous as this may sound, it was a huge struggle and an even bigger wake-up call.

The things I had to buy were:

  • 1/2 dozen eggs
  • cream
  • milk
  • onion
  • Gruyere cheese
  • pie crust (or butter and flour to make it myself)
  • balsamic vinegar

The milk, onion, eggs, and cream were easy to buy because they’re inexpensive as is, and come in small sizes (I only need 1/2 cup of cream for the recipe, so the tiny carton of cream I bought was only $1.39). The difficult stuff was the cheese, pie crust, and vinegar.

Pretty much every time I do a random trip to the supermarket on my way home from work, I stop in the fancy cheese section. You know… not where they keep Kraft or “Helluva Good” brands! Pshaw! I don’t need that crap, right? I must have some raw, organic, local cheese! Plus, my quiche recipe calls for Gruyere! Well, I stopped in my fancy cheese section and grabbed some Gruyere (imported from France, nonetheless!), tossing it in my cart. As I walked away I realized, “Crap. I didn’t look at the price!” When I did, I saw… staring back at me… $7.99… for barely a quarter pound chunk!

I truly still wanted that cheese, but I knew I couldn’t and shouldn’t spend so much. Are my guests really going to know the difference between this and the stuff from the regular refrigerator section of the supermarket? Doubtful. So, I walked over to the other side of the store, where the word “artisanal” doesn’t exist, and bought the store brand’s “all natural” mild white cheddar which was on sale for 2-for-$5 (though I only bought one). I wasn’t happy about it. I wanted that imported French stuff. Damn.

Speaking of imported stuff, as I had turned away from the fancy cheese, I saw a display of bottles of balsamic vinegar. Perfect! How convenient this store is! I grabbed the bottle and walked to my cart, glancing at the price tag: $19.99! For a tiny bottle! “But it’s from Italy,” my internal voice screamed at me. “You need this.”

Luckily I put it down and walked to the aisle that had the oil and vinegar in it – you know… Heinz, etc. But, what surprised me was this: one lonely bottle of imported Italian balsamic vinegar, all by itself, on sale for less than $3. The bottle is at least twice as big as the $20 one I’d found before, so I quickly snatched it up. I was so noticeably excited about this that it scared me.

Then, the pie crust. While in the inexpensive cheese section, I saw the pie crusts and had a decision: spend $3 on pre-made pie crust, or spend $2 on butter and at least another $2 on flour. I would have future use of the leftover butter and flour if I went with the second option, but I don’t use butter or flour very often, so would I truly need them? I ended up going with the pre-made crusts, also because it’d be much easier for me after work on Friday to make the quiche if one thing was already done for me. (I’m notoriously bad at making pie crust anyway, so I’m glad to have Pillsbury do this!)

I know some folks upon reading this are probably thinking, “Oh, woe is me! You silly little yuppie with ‘only child syndrome’ who was probably raised in an upper-middle-class household! You have to budget when grocery shopping? Suck it up and join the masses!” The point of this whole thing is to change my previous, impulsive, financially damaging ways. The point is for me to grow the hell up. I’m fully aware that people live paycheck to paycheck and always have to buy generics to get by. And, no, I never have had to do that. But now I am. Yes, it’s by choice, but that doesn’t make it less difficult.

Anyway… damage done at the supermarket for my caramelized onion and Gruyere cheddar quiche: $17.90

After I went home and put the groceries away, I went to trivia at a bar with some coworkers. I had an amazing time! Seriously! We came in third place and, thanks to me being the only one suggesting team names, we won the “Best Team Name”! (We were Kim Jung Rodman. Get it? Good. 🙂 )

I was nervous because we went to one of my favorite burger joints in the Boston area. Luckily a friend/coworker of mine wanted to split a burger with me so in the end, my half burger and beer cost just over $5. Fun times + good food + good company + not a lot spent = an amazing night.

On Saturday evening, after my shift at the museum, my fiance and I are going to Costco to get some necessities like meat (now that my meat CSA is done with), canned goods, toilet paper, cereal, etc. that we’re low on and usually buy in bulk. Luckily, my guy buys the groceries when we go on our big trips, so this shouldn’t affect me at all. We’ll also be staying in to watch the Patriots game instead of going out (note: I am not a Patriots fan, but he is!) so that’ll save us some dough. Maybe we’ll buy a ready-to-bake pizza from Costsco for our gameday food! As long as I’m not paying… 😉

Weekly Allowance: $60.00
Weekly Allowance Remaining: $36.65

J

My beloved gold card.

No, I’m not talking about a credit card. I’m talking about my Starbucks Gold Card. I’ve been a member since it first became available in early 2009. It’s used like a hybrid between a gift card and a debit card – you add money from a bank account or credit card to the Starbucks card and use it to make purchases. You get a discount on all purchases and random free stuff, like a free birthday drink and other things.

sbuxWell, late in 2013, my auto-reload went into effect, so now I have $40 on my Starbucks Gold Card. It may sound like I’m cheating, but I’m going to treat this like a gift card. The money was taken out of my account in December, so it isn’t like I can get it back – it’s stuck on my card until I use it. So, I’m using it eventually. Sorry, folks, if you’re disappointed. 😦

Also, when I posted earlier about unsubscribing to all of the e-mail spam I get from stores, I didn’t exclude my Starbucks Gold Card emails. The reason? The freebies. I got an e-mail today about a limited-time, one-day offer for a free latte. So, I redeemed it on my way to work this morning. Wham, bam, thank you ma’am!

As of writing this post, I haven’t gone out to Trivia with coworkers yet, nor have I gone shopping for dinner-making items for my girly coworker get-together yet. So, for now…

Weekly Allowance: $60.00
Weekly Allowance Remaining: $60.00

J